Seven.
Mathematically, it’s an odd number. Biblically, it’s a sign of perfection.
Seven. The amount of people in my family, which is why it’s my favorite number.
Seven.
It’s been seven years. Some days seven feels like a short time. Most days seven feels like a long time.
It took everyone awhile to get our lives together and pick up the broken pieces, but we did.
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Mom,
Here’s a quick snapshot of your ever-growing family and all the changes that we’ve been through the years. It hasn’t always been pretty. In fact, for awhile, things were down right ugly.
I am so proud of everyone and I know that you would be proud of them, too.
Dad is still being dad. Losing you was so extremely hard for him. It was very rough for a long time and we were all worried about him. He has since remarried and moved to Idaho. You know how he always wanted to be back west and leave the south. He seems happy but still misses you. I’m glad he has Carrie to take care of him. He visited over the summer and it was good seeing him after years of not seeing him. He made sure my car was up to par and I miss him when he’s not here.
Your first son, Herbie: You would be so proud of Herbie and Kimberly. He’s a dad to three kids; Logan, Holden, and Addison. It’s crazy how big Logan is now! Remember when he was a baby? All three kids do certainly keep them busy. All three kids have their own personality and it’s great to see how they support each personailty! Herbie has a great work ethic that he learned from you and Dad. He also takes his love for sports and coaches baseball! How amazing is that?! Kimberly is a great Mom (no surprise there) to the kids and still gives all the kids personalized birthday parties and cupcakes. She makes sure the kids are well taken care of. I know you would be so proud of them, Mom. You’re still missed.
Brenda went back to school to pursue a new career. She moved two hours away and the twins are officially living alone! I don’t think anyone thought that day would ever come. She’s always been more studious than me and can still sit and focus for hours to study! She grasps human anatomy and soaks up all she can learn. She is passionate and determined to achieve her goals to continue to help others. Donn, her boyfriend, is great to her and has supported her so much these past three years. I know you would like him, Mom. You and Brenda were best friends and she still misses you. P.S. Buster, her spunky dog, is still alive. We still use the nickname Buster Brown.
Let’s be honest, your second son, Derek, caused you and dad to lose sleep in his younger days! Him and Meredith now have twins; Andrew and Kaleigh. It was a scary time for everyone when they were born prematurely at 25 weeks! But, they’re fighters like their grandma and they overcame so many struggles. Andrew and Kaleigh are full of life and energy and have brought so much joy to the family. I would say that Derek is getting pay back for his childhood! They’re wonderful parents and you would be so proud of them. Derek works hard to make sure his family is provided for. Meredith is a great Mom and has been wonderful to Derek and the family. When they talk about you to the twins, you’re called “grandma in the clouds” You’re still missed. P.S. their dog, Stevie is still alive.
The baby of the family and momma’s boy, Josh. You two shared a special bond and losing you was hard on him. I felt guilty for moving out and leaving him alone to fend for himself but he finally found his way. He has a good job that he enjoys and works hard, too. He has a girlfriend, Nicole. Nicole is hard-working, driven, and determined to achieve her goals. She will graduate nursing school in December and has recently accepted a position at the hospital. Nicole is a wonderful addition to Josh and our family. I know you would so proud of all he has accomplished. I’m also certain that you would love Nicole. They have two dogs- Emma and Bambi. The dogs keep them busy!
As for me, Mom. I’m still the stubborn rule follower and mother hen of the family. It took me awhile to allow myself to grieve since I was so busy taking care of everyone. I’m still waiting for my person if he’s out there. He’s going to have to super patient, right? That beautiful dog in my lap is Casey. She’s a shedding machine but she’s super sweet and loyal. Casey has been my therapy over the years. She’s been the perfect companion for all my adventures and obedient except when it comes to water. I finally graduated college and teach second grade! I LOVE teaching! It’s probably no shocker that I’m in a profession with kids since I’ve always worked with kids growing up. Also probably not surprising that I am a teacher since snow days growing up were spent me playing school and making everyone do homework (that they actually did, haha!). Currently, I’m at a weird spot in life, but it’s a good spot. I’m searching for new passions and purpose. I wish you were here to give me advice. I miss you.
All in all, we’re doing well. You’re still missed.
Are you keeping count? You have 5 new grandkids and 5 grandpups. 2 new future kid in laws. Your family is growing.
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Ashely, your neice is doing great. You would be so proud of her. She’s been through so much through the years but is using the hard times in a postive way. I’ll let her write you her story. I know you’re smiling down on her.
Erica, your granddaughter is in college! She is a beautiful youg lady and has dreams she wants to achieve. I know you’d be so proud of her because she’s accomplished so much. She’s smart and does well in school.
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If you are blessed to have your parents in your life, be thankful. Hug them whenever you can. Pick up the phone and call them when you get a chance. You’ll miss that.
The pain of losing a parent never leaves. Of course I’ve learned to cope; but it wasn’t until I learned what grief was and it’s affect on me. Grief isn’t something you just shake off becasue you feel like “it’s been long enough”. It is now part of your story. It’s part of who you are and your identity. And you have to embrace it.
Grief isn’t pretty, but the changes you endure will be. It turns you into a beautiful masterpiece. It’s a beautiful ride.
Seven. Seems impossible.
-Bethany